When was the last time you were truly alone, with no distractions, no notifications, no agenda?
I know that solitude is extremely important to me.
Just over two years ago my mother died. It has taken me a while to start writing again and now feels like the right time. In the time since she died, solitude has been a real friend. Time for me to reflect, time to feel grief and loss; but also time to feel grateful for a wonderful, loving Mum and to let my thoughts and feelings run. I make time for solitude every day, even if just for a few minutes, but usually for longer. Any time of day is good, but I have found early mornings to be best, this time sets me up for the best day possible. It is where I do my best thinking and when I get my best ideas, alone in my daily dose of nature.
I think that solitude is often misunderstood. To my mind it is the state of being alone without feeling lonely. It is a deliberately chosen and often restorative choice to spend time with myself, free from external distractions and social interactions. It is not about withdrawing from the World, rather it is about intentionally creating space for personal reflection, mental clarity, creativity or simply just for rest. Unlike loneliness, which is a feeling of disconnection and longing for social contact, I experience solitude as peaceful, grounding and empowering.
So what do I find are the key benefits of solitude? Solitude allows my mind to settle, allowing me to process thoughts and gain perspective, helping me find clarity. It enhances my creativity, many of my creative breakthroughs happen in quiet, un-distracted moments when I am alone. Time alone helps me to recognise my emotions and manage them better. Without external inputs, I am able to get closer to my values and to my true identity. When I’m away from noise and interruptions I can focus more deeply, and this boosts my productivity. Solitude allows me time to reflect and feel grateful for my life.
Would you benefit from carving out some time for solitude in your life?